The whole point of writing your personal stories is to allow other people to know you—the real you, the whole, multifaceted you. To create a meaningful portrait of yourself, you need to go deeper into yourself to get an overall perspective of your life thus far.
You should reflect on your past, take stock of who you are at present, and project your hopes and wishes into the future. And when writing about yourself you should treat yourself with the same fairness, honesty and kindness as you do when writing about other people in your stories.
You may want to ask yourself a few questions:
- If I could change my current circumstances, what would I do and why?
- If I could change my past, would I? Why? How?
- What is my philosophy of life?
- How do I feel about my life's accomplishments?
One way to get a wide-angle view of your own life is to reflect on the pivotal events that shaped your life. Perhaps an early loss set you on a certain path, maybe an unexpected phone call altered the direction of your life, or possibly you read a book that changed the your way of thinking for all time. Often, these are not big public events, but very personal moments—a mental breakthrough or a moment of understanding or realization.
Make a mini-timeline showing the events that shaped you:
- On a blank paper, draw a horizontal line across the middle of the page.
- Make five vertical marks along the line, each mark denoting a pivotal event in your life.
- Write down your top five influential events, one for each mark.
- Include personal events that were important in determining how you see yourself, changed the direction of your life, or changed your way of thinking.
- Take some time to reflect on each these crucial events. Think about how that event changed you. Who were you before that event? Who were you after that event? What changed?
- With this new perspective, try writing one or two pages about how each of these events shaped the course of your life and who you are because of them.
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